✅ Checkpoint: Red Flags, Conflict, and Trust

By Better Wise

Quiz

  1. Your new partner cancels dinner once, two hours out, but immediately suggests Sunday instead and confirms it the next day. How should you sort this?
    • Dealbreaker, because cancelling shows disrespect
    • A red flag, because red flags are single bad moments
    • Watch, because any cancellation means they are losing interest
    • Workable, because one cancellation with a concrete alternative and follow-up is a scheduling problem, not a pattern
  2. Which pattern does the lesson describe as the one that most reliably predicts a relationship's collapse?
    • Contempt: mocking, eye-rolling, name-calling, or jokes at your expense
    • Needing an hour alone after a disagreement before talking
    • Occasional loud chewing or other small annoyances
    • Having a bad week and snapping once in traffic
  3. A drumbeat of "you're too sensitive," "that never happened," or "you're remembering it wrong" is a pattern meant to make you doubt your own perception. The lesson calls this ____.
  4. In a heated argument, your partner says, "I can feel myself getting heated. Can we take 30 minutes and come back at 8:15?" What makes this de-escalation work?
    • It proves the relationship is broken and should end
    • It ends the conversation permanently so the issue disappears
    • The pause has a specific return time attached, so it is a skill rather than abandonment
    • It lets the person avoid ever discussing the issue again
  5. Which of these are the four beats of a repair that lands? Select all that apply.
    • Name the specific behavior: "I raised my voice and cut you off."
    • Say "sorry you feel that way" and move on
    • Say what you will do differently, small and checkable
    • Name the impact: "That probably made you feel like your opinion does not matter here."
    • Ask what would help now
  6. You have had the same conversation three times with clear requests and nothing changes. According to the lesson, what does this tell you?
    • You should threaten to break up during the next fight
    • It is a sign you are being too sensitive
    • The problem is no longer communication; it is willingness
    • You need to explain your request a fourth time, more carefully
  7. Which three ingredients does the lesson say build trust over time?
    • Grand gestures, constant togetherness, and never fighting
    • Love bombing, fast commitment, and intensity
    • Keeping score, waiting to be asked, and going quiet
    • Consistency, honesty, and repair
  8. Design your own 25-minute weekly check-in. Write the day and time, your version of the four questions, and one sentence you would send your partner to propose it.

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