✅ Checkpoint: Attachment and Partner Clarity

By Better Wise

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Quiz

  1. In the lesson, which attachment tendency is described by the core belief "Closeness costs me freedom" and shows up as pulling back after good dates or deflecting questions about where things are going?
    • Disorganized
    • Secure
    • Avoidant
    • Anxious
  2. In the two-hour reply delay example, what did the anxious pattern ("Maya") actually do?
    • Noticed a small dip, did nothing, and later said she was glad to hear from him
    • Drafted several messages and sent a short test disguised as a complaint
    • Felt relief and used the delay as evidence the other person was losing interest
    • Asked directly to define the relationship
  3. According to the lesson, what is the three-part structure for naming your attachment pattern out loud?
    • Name the feeling, own it as yours, state the alternative action
    • Blame the other person, explain your history, ask for reassurance
    • Send a test message, wait for a reply, apologize later
    • Announce your attachment style, list your triggers, set a rule
  4. Which item belongs in the non-negotiables bucket rather than in strong preferences or nice-to-haves?
    • Loves dogs
    • Is respectful to people who have nothing to offer them
    • Shares your sense of humor
    • Tells you directly when they are upset instead of freezing you out for days
  5. What is the trade test used for when building your partner list?
    • Checking whether your partner would trade you for someone else
    • Deciding which nice-to-haves to drop first
    • Comparing your list with a friend's list to see whose is better
    • Deciding whether a preference is strong enough to become a non-negotiable
  6. A working partner list should have no more than ____ non-negotiables, and each one should be written as a behavior you could observe rather than a personality label.
  7. The lesson says the better question is not "what type am I" but "what do I do when I feel ____ about someone?"
  8. Write your own one-page partner list: three to five non-negotiables phrased as observable behaviors, three to five strong preferences, and two to three nice-to-haves. Then check it against your attachment tendency.

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