# ✅ Checkpoint: Red Flags, Conflict, and Trust By Better Wise ## Quiz 1. Your new partner cancels dinner once, two hours out, but immediately suggests Sunday instead and confirms it the next day. How should you sort this? - Dealbreaker, because cancelling shows disrespect - A red flag, because red flags are single bad moments - Watch, because any cancellation means they are losing interest - Workable, because one cancellation with a concrete alternative and follow-up is a scheduling problem, not a pattern 2. Which pattern does the lesson describe as the one that most reliably predicts a relationship's collapse? - Contempt: mocking, eye-rolling, name-calling, or jokes at your expense - Needing an hour alone after a disagreement before talking - Occasional loud chewing or other small annoyances - Having a bad week and snapping once in traffic 3. A drumbeat of "you're too sensitive," "that never happened," or "you're remembering it wrong" is a pattern meant to make you doubt your own perception. The lesson calls this ____. 4. In a heated argument, your partner says, "I can feel myself getting heated. Can we take 30 minutes and come back at 8:15?" What makes this de-escalation work? - It proves the relationship is broken and should end - It ends the conversation permanently so the issue disappears - The pause has a specific return time attached, so it is a skill rather than abandonment - It lets the person avoid ever discussing the issue again 5. Which of these are the four beats of a repair that lands? Select all that apply. - Name the specific behavior: "I raised my voice and cut you off." - Say "sorry you feel that way" and move on - Say what you will do differently, small and checkable - Name the impact: "That probably made you feel like your opinion does not matter here." - Ask what would help now 6. You have had the same conversation three times with clear requests and nothing changes. According to the lesson, what does this tell you? - You should threaten to break up during the next fight - It is a sign you are being too sensitive - The problem is no longer communication; it is willingness - You need to explain your request a fourth time, more carefully 7. Which three ingredients does the lesson say build trust over time? - Grand gestures, constant togetherness, and never fighting - Love bombing, fast commitment, and intensity - Keeping score, waiting to be asked, and going quiet - Consistency, honesty, and repair 8. Design your own 25-minute weekly check-in. Write the day and time, your version of the four questions, and one sentence you would send your partner to propose it. --- ## Contents Part of [💞 Healthy Love: Boundaries, Attachment and Avoiding Toxic Relationships](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships.md) - **🪞 Know Yourself: Attachment and Partner Clarity** - [🧩 Attachment Styles and Your Dating Patterns](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/attachment-styles-and-dating-patterns.md) - [📝 Define What You Actually Want in a Partner](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/define-what-you-want-in-a-partner.md) (sign-in required) - [✅ Checkpoint: Attachment and Partner Clarity](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/checkpoint-attachment-and-partner-clarity.md) (sign-in required) - **🎯 Intentional Dating and Clear Communication** - [💬 Dating With Intention From the First Conversation](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/date-with-intention-values-first-dating.md) - [🗣️ Communicating Needs Clearly](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/communicating-needs-clearly.md) - [🚧 Boundaries That Actually Hold](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/boundaries-that-hold.md) - [✅ Checkpoint: Intentional Dating and Boundaries](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/checkpoint-dating-with-intention-and-boundaries.md) - **🛡️ Red Flags, Conflict, and Lasting Trust** - [🚩 Recognizing Red Flags and Toxic Patterns](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/recognizing-red-flags-and-toxic-patterns.md) - [🤝 Conflict, Repair, and Ending Things Well](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/conflict-repair-and-healthy-endings.md) (premium content) - [🌱 Building Trust and Balance Long Term](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/building-trust-and-balance-long-term.md) - [✅ Checkpoint: Red Flags, Conflict, and Trust](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/checkpoint-red-flags-conflict-and-trust.md) — this lesson - [Course cheatsheet](https://everwise.study/courses/healthy-love-boundaries-attachment-and-avoiding-toxic-relationships/cheatsheet.md) (premium content)